Do
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Don’t
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| Admit you miss them |
“Drop by” without warning |
| Help them move in |
Say, “Where do you want your special blankie?” |
| Send articles or books |
Write papers for them |
| Encourage interests |
Make them choose a specific major or career |
| Ask questions |
Pry |
| Call every now and then |
Call early in the morning |
| Give them space |
Vanish |
| Get an e-mail account |
Send endless “junk” e-mail |
| Have “house rules” |
Expect them to spend every moment at home when on vacation |
| Praise accomplishments |
Reward/punish grades with money |
| Send pictures of the family pet |
Let the family pet attend college, too |
| Share your experiences |
Expect them to be just like you |
| Talk about alcohol, drugs, and sex |
Tell them about your own indiscretions |
| Expect them to be human |
Expect them to be perfect |